Showing posts with label courage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label courage. Show all posts

Friday, March 28, 2014

This Requires Total Concentration

#Focus
  
"This requires total concentration” (Bruce Lee paraphrase)


Martial artists can focus their mental attention and bodily energy to apply physical forces that astonish most other mortals because the latter cannot see beyond the distractions of their own busy, active minds.


Today, the advent of electronic media and the internet have enabled many distractions that seem appealing at first, yet enslave us in the end.


Text message.  Email.  Phone call.  Tweet.  Pandora.  ipod.  Video game.  Facebook.  Pinterest. Netflix.  Hulu.



Now, where was I? Oh, yes.  Focus.


Fox News.  CNBC.  Politico.  CNN.  Talk radio.  The New York Times.  The Wall Street Journal. Bloomberg.  Reuters.  

What was I doing?  Oh yes, writing a blogpost.

Napoleon Hill in his 17 Principles of Success described a quality he called “Controlled Attention” as the ability “to focus the powers of [the] mind upon the attainment of a definite objective and to keep it so directed at will.”  If one is often distracted, bouncing from activity to activity like a pinball on steroids, how can one achieve or accomplish anything worthwhile?  “Multi-tasking” is an oxymoron!

So, what can we do when we are either assaulted or tempted by the barrage of today’s electronic distractions? I do have a few simple recommendations:

1) Cancel your cable/satellite TV service.  Throw out all radios, ipods, gaming consoles.
2) Read only one literate newspaper each day.
3) When with people, place your cell/smart phone in “airplane” mode, and be fully present for the people you are with.
4) If you must check and respond to email, do so only 3 times each day (morning, around lunchtime, and late-afternoon).
5) Rise early and meditate each day.

I recognize that what I am suggesting here is a radical departure from the way many individuals act these days.  Who among you has the courage to reclaim your focus?

Monday, February 24, 2014

To Work or Not To Work [With Someone]...

 
That is the question!

Whether it is nobler in the mind to suffer
Someone thrust upon you by outrageous fortune, 
Or to take a stand for who you want,
And by doing so, to live, to thrive, to choose.

In a free society it is still possible to choose with whom we work, and with whom we do not. Oh, I hear the raucous chorus: "Feldercarb!  I must work with so and so.  That's my job.  I can't say no..."

Well, to test the assertion that "I must", I suggest that those in the chorus ask Byron Katie's Four Questions: 

1) Is it true?
2) Can you absolutely know that it's true?
3) How do you react and what happens when you believe that thought?
4) Who would you be without that thought?


In my role as a professional coach, I am free to choose with whom I work, and with whom I do not.  It's among the most beautiful and enjoyable aspects of being a coach.  And, as my coaching practice develops, I am becoming more aware of the folks whom I inspire, and who inspire me in a truly Co-Active way.  

My clients are:

- Calm.
- Gritty.
- Motivated.
- Dependable.
- Entrepreneurial.
- Open to change.
- Straightforward and direct.
- Deeply appreciative of coaching.
- Truly nice, pleasant, and friendly folks.

What they bring to a coaching alliance is:

- Trust.
- Courage.
- An open heart.
- Fun and playfulness.
- A positive mental attitude. 
- Willingness to experiment, fail, and learn.
- Compassion for themselves and their coach.
- A burning desire to advance and transform their lives.

So, with whom do YOU truly want to work? That is the question.